With November Ahead

November ahead

Happy November 1st, my friends. What an October it was. As we adjust our rear-view mirrors to get a quick, last look at all the wonderful costumes and harvest decorations, we set our sights forward on the cold days to come. There are only 61 days left in the year 2017. That ain’t a lot. Are you happy with the 304 days behind? Forget for a moment the failed, greedy American administration, we knew that would happen. Forget the self-serving Congress. That won’t change. Set aside the hopes and disappointments of your football team, your baseball team, the economy, the antics of the mother-in-law, and the lament we feel when the sun goes down and the icy chill sets in.

These things we can’t control.

In fact, it seems, there are more factors in our wild and wooly lives we cannot control than those we can. Loss of control is, in fact, one of the great triggers of our anxieties. As if life wasn’t hard enough without anxiety.

And these fears are worse for some than others. For some, control is all there is. I used to call myself a control freak through the earlier stages of my life. I used to tremble when I felt I could not maintain dominion. There are some I know that are like that now, to whom utter control is the only state in which they feel safe. And because utter control is impossible, safe is the last thing they ever feel. They call that a viscous circle. A self-defeating view, to be sure.

But we can let those anxieties go, for now. As the last 8 or 9 weeks of the year wind down we could – we should – focus on what we can control. What we can change. When the year was new we all had hopes and aspirations for what is to come. We all had fears. Some of these goals we’ve realized, some we have not. Some of the things we hoped for depended on others, or on fate, some simply on ourselves.

Go back. Think of the freshness of a wonderful new year. The coming spring. The renewal, inside and out, that we hoped for. The things we wanted to accomplish, for ourselves.

It’s not too late.

The tenth month of 2017 is behind us, in that tiny mirror at the upper center of the windshield. But the windshield is still before us, and the view through it much vaster. Focus ahead. Forge ahead. Make the last days of the year the best ones yet. Be the person you promised you would be. Live the life you said you would. Start now, again. There is still time.

Happy November 1st, my friends. What an October it was. What a year it has been. And what a year it will be, when your best self and my best self face the rest of it together … and another one to come.

Author: Tom Being Tom

Tom writes a blog. When he’s not doing that he’s usually hanging out with Mrs C, his wife of 20 years. Together, they have two beautiful, golden boys. Literally. The retriever kind. Tom recently started a novel and is a member of one of the largest social groups known to man.

His worldview was formed by the strange intermingling of comic book superheroes, socioeconomic politics, the Air Coryell offense, and an atheistic spiritual awakening.

He intends to save the world next Thursday.

19 thoughts on “With November Ahead”

  1. Let’s also remind ourselves that the nov in November means nine, as in November is the ninth month. Except it isn’t. Pour out a silent fuck you to those selfish caesars Julius and Augustus.

    Agreed on the tacit acceptance of the things we can’t control, followed by periodic freak-outs (at least on my end). It’s tough, but surrendering yourself to it… there’s a kind of freedom that can be nice.

    1. Haha! That’s the first thing I thought of, too, bpw, the beginning of the 11th month with the root word “nine”! But, it also has the double-distinction of the being the latin root for “new,” which somehow felt right for the content of the post. 😉

      Thanks for the read, and for not freaking out too much on the positive vibe! 😂

      1. I love that you love your root words!! Nov absolutely means new. What a novel concept! Positivity is always great and appreciated; I simply wish I could find and write about more of it. It’s absolutely a personal disposition thing, IMO.

  2. It’s just heating up Down Under, although today we have been rudely blasted by rain and cold on the East Coast. Bloody Spring is perpetually experiencing an identity crisis. I was actually just thinking about this yesterday. I am a teacher and kids are so excited and well intended at the beginning of each year. Everyone has a clean slate. Everyone (teachers included) is given the opportunity to buck their reputations. But then comes the slippery slope of routine and expectation. This is the time of year where everyone relaxes, having realised there is absolutely nothing they can do to take back the year just gone. Can’t wait to read your New Year’s Recap!

    1. What a fascinating perspective! It’s amazing, you’re right. We’re all still just kids (and teachers) trying to make it through the school year! Fabulous.

      I do intend to write one up. Thank you!

  3. Tom, I am so mad right now!! I thought I would pop onto your blog this morning to see if you have written anything lately, and wow, have you ever! WordPress hates me because I haven’t received a single notification about your blog. ARGH. How have I missed all this good stuff? Regardless, I am so grateful I decided to look this morning and found this excellent post…I love your attitude, and you gave me the reminder I needed.
    THIS…
    ‘The tenth month of 2017 is behind us, in that tiny mirror at the upper center of the windshield. But the windshield is still before us, and the view through it much vaster. Focus ahead. Forge ahead. Make the last days of the year the best ones yet. Be the person you promised you would be. Live the life you said you would. Start now, again. There is still time.’
    Love it so much. Thank you, sir!

    1. Thank you,Tanya! I had a rough bout with a bad bug over the weekend that (temporarily) knocked me off my “best self,” but now I’m back on track. Actually, I take that back; lying on the couch with nothing to do but (watch TV and) reflect actually HELPED me get on track. I’m looking forward to finishing 2017 strong!

      I’m really glad you liked it. As I was typing I opened up the incurable dreamer and realized I missed your latest, too … inconceivable! I will rectify that immediately (if not sooner). Welcome back!

      1. I loved your post so much Tom, I admire the way you think, so I was grateful to have read it. Glad you took the time to take care of yourself and get back on track. It’s amazing how healing Netflix can be when you allow yourself to take it in. Here’s to finishing 2017 strong! Cheers!

  4. I admire your optimism, when you say this stuff, you really mean it.
    Ok, 315 days behind, right? I’m not much of a mathematician and NO, I can’t be completely satisfied with it so far.
    So, how much more do I have left? The clock is ticking….

    1. According to timeanddate.com there are 48 days left in 2017. Today is the 317th day of the year, according to epochconverter.com. I spent the 316th day with an incredible group of friends (and strangers) at a local tavern surrounding by belly laughs and full brews. I watched my long-suffering favorite football team crush another opponent as their resurgence to glory continues. I wrote 2000 more words of my novel. The wife and I had a great discussion over pizza to close out the night. I slept like a baby and dreamt well.

      There are still a lot of things I want to do before 2018, a lot more I want to do next year. Things to complete. Changes to come. But, right now, I’m pretty happy with the 316 behind, I’m ready for #317 and I’m looking forward to the 48 ahead. I mean it. 🙂

      Thank you for reading, BwB, and welcome to TBT!

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